Resources

Comprehensive Divorce and Co-Parenting Resource - Divorce is a challenging experience, especially for kids and teens. For teens, they are in the middle of high school or maybe just entering college, and suddenly, their family life changes dramatically. They might be juggling school work, extracurricular activities, and friendships while dealing with the emotional toll of a family breakup. It's important to recognize that feeling a mix of emotions – from sadness and anger to confusion and relief – is entirely normal.

Co-Parenting Conversations Podcast (Spotify Link) - (YouTube Link) - With renowned psychologist Dr. Donald Gordon, we will delve into the complex world of co-parenting during and after divorce and separation. Join us as we explore some of the emotional, legal, and practical aspects of parental break ups, helping you navigate this transformative journey with wisdom and guidance.

TalkingParents - Every shared parenting situation comes with its own set of challenges, and that’s where we come in. TalkingParents is the all-in-one communication platform that co-parents rely on to stay organized, reduce conflict, and keep interactions documented. Whether you’re looking to coordinate more seamlessly, set boundaries, or keep co-parenting on the record and off your mind, TalkingParents is here to help you focus on what matters most: your children.

How to Plan and Manage Finances as Co-Parents - Navigating the financial waters of co-parenting demands a strategic approach to splitting expenses, budgeting, saving and planning for the future. Effective co-parenting involves open communication, joint decision-making and the use of tools to simplify expense management. Together, co-parents can build a financial foundation that supports their children and strengthens their partnership, ensuring financial responsibilities are shared fairly.

Financially Planning for a Divorce - Going through divorce is hard. The relationship with the person who pulled you head-over-heels in love has probably disintegrated into a maelstrom of bitterness and anger. Now that you've made the decision to go your separate ways, you might feel as though you're embarking on the road to recovery. But getting through the divorce comes first. The process is as much about your financial health as it is about your emotional state because divorce greatly affects your financial security. Divorce is a financial disruptor that requires planning and usually hiring an attorney.

Life Insurance After a Divorce - After a divorce, you might need to buy life insurance or update your existing policy. This process may include changing your beneficiary or cashing out a permanent life policy to divide the cash value with your ex-spouse.

Holiday Tips for Co-Parents - The holidays are important and usually stressful times for families that have separated or divorced or who are in the process. How do you protect your children from the stress? Children have good memories of previous holidays and will feel the loss of their family, especially during holidays. They are also vulnerable and will remember holidays for a long time, so you want to make those memories as positive as possible.

Take The ACE Quiz — And Learn What It Does And Doesn't Mean -An ACE score is a tally of different types of abuse, neglect, and other hallmarks of a rough childhood. According to the Adverse Childhood Experiences study, the rougher your childhood, the higher your score is likely to be and the higher your risk for later health problems.

Feeling Wheel - Many parents do not have much of a vocabulary for feeling words. They never learned these growing up, and thus their ability to communicate effectively is somewhat impaired. For negative feelings, increasing your awareness and acceptance of these feelings reduces their power to upset you.

Back-to-School Tips for Separated and Divorced Parents - Back-to-school can be difficult at the best of times, but it can be especially challenging for children whose parents separated or divorced over the summer. Here's advice on how to support your children as they return to school.

The Exit - Ending a relationship is never easy. THE EXIT was developed to provide guidance and expert advice to address the many challenges: emotional, legal, financial, custody, property matters, and more. Whether you’re starting, in the middle, or finishing the process, THE EXIT is a comprehensive resource aimed at making uncoupling an easier and more manageable experience.

Children and Divorce - Divorce is common in the United States, with nearly 50% of all marriages ending in divorce. In many instances, children of divorce tend to feel the effects the most, given their inability to process and cope with continued stress. They have a particularly hard time learning to live without one of their parents, which in many cases is the father. Research has shown that, historically, fathers are less likely to get custody of their children, although this trend is changing.

Divorce & Child Custody Guide - Written by divorce lawyers, this guide walks you through the divorce process and child custody process, reviews your divorce or custody rights, explains the legal jargon you are going to be hearing, and helps you understand what the judges look for.

SHOULD I TRY TO WORK IT OUT? - This guidebook is designed to be a resource to individuals who may be thinking about getting a divorce or whose spouse is thinking about divorce. These individuals are at the “crossroads of divorce,” facing a challenging decision that has powerful consequences for the future of their own lives, the lives of family members, and their communities. The guidebook contains research-based information about important questions that individuals at the crossroads of divorce often have, such as: Can my marriage be repaired and can we be happy again? Is divorce a reliable path to happiness? What are the effects of divorce on children, adults, and the communities they live in? What are the legal options for ending a marriage? With objective information and self-guided, written exercises, the authors try to answer these questions and many more in this guidebook and help individuals at the crossroads of divorce think clearly about the best path forward for themselves and their children.

THE DIVORCE REMEDY - Michele Weiner-Davis goes beyond her marriage-saving bestseller, Divorce Busting, with this empowering and encouraging guide for revitalizing marriage and building stronger, more loving bonds. In a down-to-earth style that is free of psychobabble, Weiner-Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship.

Alternatives to Divorce with Bill Doherty - Divorce is a way to solve a problem that people don’t think they can solve by staying married. For some couples divorce may indeed be the best option, but for other couples there may be better ways to solve their problem.

Creating a Safety-Focused Parenting Plan (A Model Template) - This guide is viewed as a “model template” created and published by the Oregon Judicial Department. The Center for Divorce Education views the material in this document to be helpful information for persons who find themselves in need of such services. This document contains forms that are specific to the State of Oregon. PLEASE CHECK WITH YOUR STATE to learn what forms or additional information is needed when creating a Safety-Focused Parenting Plan in your State. This document is intended solely as a guide.

Personal Safety-Plan Check-list - This document is provided through the National DV Hotline Website. These safety suggestions have been compiled from safety plans distributed by state domestic violence coalitions from around the country. Following these suggestions is not a guarantee of safety, but could help to improve your personal safety situation.

National Domestic Violence Hotline (Website) - This resource provides helpful information and assistance should you find yourself in a situation of abuse or violence. This site includes guidance for personal safety as well as the safety of your children.